It’s pretty hard to be a sex goddess when everything is on autopilot. Sure, you can be in a sexy dress, but you still have to stop and think about what you’re doing and why. You can’t just take your time and work on the basics. That’s not sexy.
There’s a great meme that goes, “Hey, how about you do your thing and then we do ours?” This is when you’re just about to go down on your best girl and you realize you’ve got about a minute left for your other self to come and play. It’s a great meme, but I have to say it’s a bit of a cop-out too.
Some people have found that by masturbating, they get to the part where they are no longer on autopilot. I believe that is also true for sex. It’s easier to stop and think about what you are doing and why you are doing it at certain times.
This one, I really don’t know. I do know that a person with enough self-awareness to stop and think about their masturbation behavior can actually get that to the point where they don’t want to do it anymore. I know this because I’ve seen it happen. You just don’t want to stop because it feels so good.
Maybe its easier to stop and think about why you are masturbating now and why you are masturbating at certain times. This is not necessarily a bad thing. After all, we are creating a culture of masturbation where it has become normal to not stop and think about why you are masturbating. The problem is that often times these people (myself included) stop immediately. This is because they arent aware of all the mental cues that tell them to stop.
This is a problem in a society that has come to expect regular intercourse after a long period of abstinence and/or masturbation. We are trying to create a culture where sex is always “just right.” This is just not the case. It is time to step back from the cliff and take a deep breath.
That’s why sex comes in waves. You can never be in the mood, so it’s best to just stop and take a break. There may be other reasons you are masturbating, but you should only look at them from the perspective of your own lack of self awareness.
I have been saying for years that we need to stop making excuses for our behavior. We need to be honest with ourselves, look in the mirror, and say to ourselves, “You fucking idiot.
I think the term “self-awareness”, while not a word that actually describes the process of self-awareness, is a good one. So why does it sound so awkward? It’s because we use it like a loaded word. I think it’s best to not use it that way, because it can do both good and bad.
Self-awareness really just means being aware of what your habits, routines, impulses, and reactions are doing to you. If you want to be a better person, you need to take an honest look at yourself. The first step is to acknowledge your own self-awareness. The second step is to take a step back and consider what your habits, routines, impulses, and reactions are doing to you.
