I could not agree with you more. The way we think, talk, act, and move around is so automatic that it is easy to forget that it is all based on experience. This can be the reason why we make mistakes in our lives. Many of us are guilty of thinking that we know better than to do something, and we don’t even know that we are doing it.
In fact, it is true that our most important decisions are based on our past experiences. When we are confronted with a new situation (something we are not sure we can do), we are often inclined to make the right decision and not only will it help us in the future, but it will help us in the present.
I’ve been guilty of a few of these. The most common is thinking that I know better than someone else. This is often because I’ve been the one who has made the decision and I don’t like the outcome. In one recent example, I was at a restaurant and a woman approached me to order. I was not sure what to order, so I ordered a cup of hot tea. She said that she wanted a cup of coffee, so I ordered it.
I told her, “I don’t like coffee.” She said, “Well, I like you.” I said, “You’re a jerk.” So in this case, a bad decision was made that later made things worse.
Well, some people dont like to hear that they are a jerk. A jerk is someone who likes to lead with the big words, and when someone doesnt like how you present yourself, they try to make it so you have to change, and they try to change everything. In this case, even though I had originally thought that she was a jerk, I was wrong. She was actually a jerk. She also made a bad decision.
Chas Mclean is the only other person in the world you could ever talk to about this sort of thing. He is the CEO of a giant computer security company, which is why the last thing he wants to do is tell you that he was involved in a murder. Now, if your mom was a jerk, you would never let her near your house after she had a fit. If your dad was a jerk, you would never let him see you after he had his own heart attack.
This is a bit of a stretch, but it seems like the way to tell whether or not a person is a jerk is by his actions. If your dad is a jerk, his actions are likely to not be consistent with his behavior. If your mom is a jerk, she may not act consistently with her behavior, or at all. Her actions might be in direct contrast to her behavior.
There is a similar rule for our own behavior. If we act consistently, we act consistently. If we act inconsistently, we act inconsistently. It isn’t that we should act consistently and consistently, it’s that we should act consistently and consistently.
You have to go through and see if you can take care of your own actions.